Woman says coworker asked to crash for “a few days” — then wouldn’t take no for an answer

A woman on Reddit said the situation started with what sounded like a simple request. A coworker she wasn’t especially close to approached her and asked if she could stay at her apartment for a few days. The coworker said she was dealing with a housing issue and needed somewhere temporary while she figured things out.

According to the post, the woman didn’t say yes right away.

She said she felt caught off guard. They worked together, but they weren’t friends outside of work. Letting someone stay in her home wasn’t something she took lightly, especially when it involved someone she didn’t know well.

At first, she tried to keep the conversation neutral.

She asked questions about how long the coworker would need to stay and what the situation actually was. The answers didn’t make her feel more comfortable. The timeline was vague, and it didn’t sound like there was a clear plan for what would happen after those “few days.”

That’s when the hesitation turned into a no.

According to the post, she told her coworker she wasn’t comfortable having someone stay at her place. She didn’t make it personal—she said it was about her space and her boundaries.

The coworker didn’t take it well.

Instead of accepting the answer, she pushed back. She said she really needed the help and made it sound like the woman was leaving her with no options. The conversation shifted from a request to something that felt closer to pressure.

It didn’t stop there.

According to the post, the coworker started bringing it up again at work. She mentioned the situation in front of others, framing it in a way that made it seem like the woman had refused to help someone in a tough spot.

The dynamic changed quickly.

What had been a straightforward boundary turned into something that affected how people at work saw her. Some coworkers asked questions. Others seemed to take sides without knowing the full situation.

The woman said she felt uncomfortable coming into work after that.

It wasn’t just about the original request anymore. It was about how the situation was being talked about and how it made her look.

The issue escalated further.

According to the update, the coworker continued to push the narrative that she had been wronged, even though the woman had never agreed to anything in the first place. The situation became less about housing and more about how the refusal was being handled.

The woman didn’t change her decision.

She said she stood by the fact that she had the right to decide who stayed in her home. Helping someone didn’t mean giving up her own space, especially when she didn’t feel comfortable with the situation.

By the end of her post, she said the part that stuck with her wasn’t just the request—it was how quickly it turned into something else. What started as a question about staying a few days became a workplace issue that followed her long after she said no.

Read the original Reddit thread here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1kf323r/aita_for_not_letting_my_coworker_stay_at_my_place/