Cashier Says Her Coworker Made Loud Comments About Customers’ Bodies — Then Joked About Her Shirt Size Too
A woman in her 20s says she works as a cashier with a male coworker who is friendly, charismatic, and well-liked by the rest of the staff. On the surface, he does not come across as scary or openly hostile.
But lately, she says, the way he talks about women at work has started making her deeply uncomfortable.
She explained in a Reddit post that the coworker is in his early 20s, handsome, social, and easy to get along with. They both work as cashiers, so they are around customers constantly. That means whatever they say at the register or nearby can easily be overheard.
According to the cashier, the coworker recently started making comments about female customers’ bodies.
A woman would come through, and afterward he would come over to the poster and ask if she had seen the customer’s chest. He made remarks about how large the customer’s breasts were and used sexual language about them.
That alone made the cashier uncomfortable.
It was not just that he was talking about women sexually. It was that he was doing it at work, about customers, in a space where those same customers or other people nearby might hear him. He apparently did not always realize how loud he was being, which forced the poster into the uncomfortable role of hushing him so other people would not overhear.
That is a lot to put on a coworker.
She was not his manager. She was not there to clean up his social judgment. But if he said something crude loudly enough, she became part of the situation simply by standing there beside him.
She also felt bothered by the hypocrisy of it. She said he is respectful to customers’ faces, but behind their backs, he talks about them like sex objects. As a woman herself, hearing that kind of language made her feel uncomfortable and disappointed.
The situation was complicated by the fact that they had once had a private conversation outside work about attraction. She had mentioned that she is bisexual, and the two had talked about the old “boobs or butt” question. But to her, that was a one-time personal conversation away from work.
It did not mean she wanted him making sexual comments about customers during shifts.
That distinction matters. People can have one casual conversation with a coworker outside work and still expect professional behavior at the register. Saying something privately once does not open the door for ongoing sexual commentary on the clock.
The coworker also made a comment directly about her body.
At one point, after she changed from a smaller T-shirt to a larger one, he joked by asking if her nipples had been visible in the smaller shirt. She shrugged it off in the moment, but it stayed with her because it fit the same pattern: he kept turning women’s bodies into something to comment on.
She said he is not dangerous or anything like that. She also mentioned that he has a girlfriend, which made the behavior feel even stranger to her. On top of that, he had said he may have autism, and she wondered if he might not be fully self-aware or might not realize how badly the comments were landing.
That left her second-guessing herself.
Was he creepy, or just immature? Was she overreacting, or was he creating an inappropriate workplace environment? Was this something to report, or something to address directly first?
The post did not end with a major update showing whether she talked to him or went to a manager. But the issue was clear: a cashier was stuck working beside a coworker who kept making loud sexual comments about female customers and had already made one comment about her own body.
Even if he did not mean harm, he was putting her in a bad position. She had to hear it, hush it, worry customers might overhear it, and decide whether the next comment would be even worse.
That is not normal work chatter. That is someone making the workplace feel gross because he cannot keep his commentary about women’s bodies to himself.
Commenters were somewhat mixed, but many agreed the coworker’s behavior was inappropriate.
Some people thought he sounded immature rather than dangerous, describing him as a young guy acting like he was still in high school. They said she might be overreacting if she saw him as a serious threat, but not if she simply felt uncomfortable.
Others pushed back hard on that softer view. They said a man in his 20s is old enough to know not to make crude comments about customers’ bodies at work, especially loudly enough that people nearby might hear.
Several commenters said the nipple comment crossed a clear workplace line. Talking about a coworker’s body, even as a joke, is not harmless if it makes the coworker uncomfortable.
A lot of people advised her to tell him directly that the comments are not appropriate at work and that she does not want to hear sexual remarks about customers or herself. Commenters said that if he stopped after being told, the problem might be handled.
But if he pushed back, laughed it off, or kept doing it, many said it would be time to involve a manager or HR.
The strongest advice was simple: an outside-work conversation does not give him permission to make sexual comments during shifts. Work is work, and customers should not be reduced to body parts behind their backs.
