11 Things You Should Never Say at a Small Town Gathering
It doesn’t take much to make things awkward at a small-town get-together. People don’t forget what you say, and they don’t always let it slide. If you want to stay on good terms and avoid burning bridges, here’s what to keep out of your mouth.
“You Must All Be Related”
Some people are—and some aren’t. But saying this makes it sound like you think everyone’s backwards or inbred.
Not a great first impression.
“This Place Is So Boring”
Even if it feels slow, saying it out loud insults everyone who lives here. Most folks like the quiet and the predictability.
If you don’t, keep it to yourself—or save it for a private text later.
“I Don’t Know Anybody Here”
That might be true, but it puts the pressure on others to cater to you. Instead, introduce yourself. Ask questions.
People will usually include you if you make an effort, but they won’t chase you down.
“Where’s the Nearest Real Grocery Store?”
The local one might not have everything, but calling it “not real” is a quick way to offend the folks who shop there every week.
Appreciate what’s available—or at least pretend to until you get home.
“Back Where I’m From…”
That phrase wears out fast. People know you’re new. Constant comparisons make it sound like you think your old town was better.
Mention it once if needed—then let it go.
“Why Do Y’all Do It That Way?”
Tradition runs deep. If something seems odd to you, there’s probably a reason behind it.
Asking respectfully is fine. Making it sound like a joke or critique? Not so much.
“Wow, It’s So Cheap Out Here!”
Land, rent, and groceries might cost less—but wages usually do too. What feels “cheap” to you might be someone else’s lifelong savings.
Read the room before making comments about cost.
“You Know What This Town Needs?”
Unless you’re about to start a business and hire locals, maybe keep your wishlist to yourself.
Most towns don’t want to be “fixed” by someone who hasn’t even been there a full year.
“Why Don’t You All Just Move?”
That kind of question shows you don’t get it. People live in small towns because they want to.
Not everyone wants to chase a bigger paycheck or live closer to a mall.
“Do You Even Lock Your Doors?”
Some people do. Some don’t. But asking it like it’s a joke makes you sound naive—or worse, condescending.
You’ll learn who locks what when you’ve been around long enough.
“I Could Never Live Somewhere Like This”
Saying that at a town BBQ is like telling someone you hate their cooking while you’re still eating their ribs.
Even if it’s true, it’s not the place for that opinion.
*This article was developed with AI-powered tools and has been carefully reviewed by our editors.
