Man Says a Date Tried to Steal a Statue After Hooking Up — Then His Friend Called Him the Bad Guy

A 22-year-old man says a blind date set up by a friend ended with the woman asleep in his apartment, one of his collectibles missing from the coffee table, and the item tucked at the bottom of her purse.

He explained in a Reddit post that a 21-year-old friend set him up with a 24-year-old woman he called Kelly. Going into the date, he knew very little about her beyond what she looked like and that their mutual friend described her as a “sweet girl.”

The date apparently went well enough that they ended up back at his apartment.

They had sex, cuddled for a while, and at some point, he felt Kelly get up. He did not think much of it in the moment. People get up for water, the bathroom, their phone, whatever. Nothing about that detail seemed suspicious until the next morning.

When he woke up, he went into the kitchen, which shares space with his living room. On the coffee table, he keeps a collection of small figures, toys, and statues he has gathered over the years. Some came from antique shops or thrift stores, so he understood that someone might assume “old” meant “valuable.”

That is when he noticed one statue was missing.

He said he is particular about where he places those items and almost never moves them except when cleaning. So it was not the kind of thing he would easily misplace.

At first, he looked around the apartment anyway.

Maybe it had fallen. Maybe he had moved it without thinking. Maybe there was some other explanation.

But when he was sure it was not simply misplaced, he checked Kelly’s things.

The missing statue was stuffed at the bottom of her purse.

That was the moment his mind went from confusion to anger. He figured she had taken it when she got up during the night.

He grabbed her clothes, threw them onto her to wake her up, showed her the statue, and asked how dumb she thought he was that he would not notice she was trying to rob him.

Kelly tried to explain, but he kept cutting her off. He told her to get out of his apartment before he called police.

She got dressed and left. He said he was pretty sure she cried while she did.

A few hours later, the friend who had set them up texted him, furious. He did not know what version Kelly had told her, but the friend called him awful for making a girl cry on a date.

He asked whether Kelly had mentioned trying to steal from him.

The friend said he had probably misinterpreted what was happening. She called him names, hung up, and stopped responding.

That reaction made him second-guess himself.

On one hand, the item was in Kelly’s purse. Not beside it, not under the couch, not accidentally sitting near her things. At the bottom of her purse. That is a hard thing to explain away.

On the other hand, he did not let her finish explaining. He woke her up angry, accused her, and kicked her out. Some commenters wondered if there could have been a bizarre accident — clothing thrown around, an item knocked over, something swept into a bag without her noticing. Others found that pretty hard to believe.

The man did not feel like he was wrong, but his friend’s reaction bothered him enough to ask.

The bigger issue was not only the statue. It was the trust violation. He had invited someone into his home after a date, and by morning one of his belongings was in her purse. Even if the object was not wildly valuable, it was his.

That is what commenters kept coming back to. Theft does not become harmless because the item is small, old, or sentimental instead of expensive. And waking up to find something missing from your living room after a first date is the kind of thing that makes people never invite a blind date home again.

The friend’s response added another layer. Instead of asking what happened, she immediately defended Kelly and accused him of being cruel. That made some commenters wonder whether Kelly had told a very different story, while others wondered if the friend simply did not want to believe someone she set him up with had stolen from him.

Either way, the friendship took damage too.

By the end, the man seemed less torn over kicking Kelly out and more confused that anyone expected him to listen kindly to an explanation after finding his missing property hidden in her purse.

Maybe Kelly had a story. Maybe she cried because she was caught. Maybe she cried because the confrontation scared her.

But the statue still ended up at the bottom of her bag.

And that was the part he could not get past.

Commenters mostly told him he was not wrong. Many said there was not much to “misinterpret” about finding a missing item at the bottom of someone’s purse.

Several people said he may have been abrupt, but that his anger was understandable because he believed he had caught someone stealing from his home.

A lot of commenters questioned the mutual friend’s reaction. They said a real friend should have at least asked what happened before attacking him for making Kelly cry.

Some commenters did raise the possibility that he should have let Kelly explain before throwing her out, especially since they had been intimate and she woke up to an angry confrontation. But even many of those commenters agreed that the item being in her purse was hard to defend.

Others suggested he tell mutual friends the facts before Kelly or the setup friend spread a different version.

The strongest advice was simple: do not invite Kelly back, do not accept more blind dates from that friend, and do not let someone make you feel guilty for reacting when your property disappears into a date’s bag.